Dangers of dating violence
“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER.
One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him.
He may simply not fit anyone’s image of a cruel or intimidating person.
So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser.” ― “It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her as an excuse to mistreat you, stop believing anything he tells you about that relationship and instead recognize it as a sign that he has problems with relating to women.” ― “The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt.
He’ll get severely depressed, causing her to worry whether he’ll be all right.
And, depending on what style of abuser he is, she may know that he will become dangerous when she tries to leave him. I feel utterly powerless, and that feeling is my prision.
When she stands up to him, he makes her pay for it—sooner or later.
They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol.
And he treats his wife with respect every day of his life, treats her like a queen - the queen of the home she makes for their children.” ― “The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands.