Dark women dating
From my experience, being a Black woman on Tinder means that with each swipe I’m more likely to encounter veiled and overt displays of anti-blackness and misogyny.“Online dating dehumanizes me and other people of colour,” Roderique concluded.
After editing her photos to make her skin white, while leaving all of her features and profile details intact, she concluded that online dating is skin deep.
One such instance happened when I met with a guy at a west-end bar and we had a really dreamy date.
But afterwards, when I did a thorough Insta-stalk, I was kind of weirded out to find that there were more than a dozen photos of scantily-clad Black women on his page, clearly sourced from Google or Tumblr.
“My features were not the problem,” she wrote, “rather, it was the colour of my skin.”With that in mind, I’m ashamed to admit it, but to some degree I tailored my Tinder persona to fit into the mould of eurocentric beauty standards in order to optimize my matches. But from growing up in a predominantly white area and having my hair, skin and culture under constant scrutiny, I knew that not everyone would.
I had started seeing Brett*, and he was hesitant to take me to his home to meet his parents.
“You’re pretty for a dark-skinned girl” is one of the many fake compliments I still receive from individuals of the same or similar ethnic background as myself.