Ftm and mtf dating
Jad says he likes to think he’s more empathetic, and aware of his behaviour.
“We've lived lives where people saw us as women, and experienced the misogyny, cat calls, and sexual harassment that women go through.” He’s adapted his behaviour to make women feel more comfortable around him in the past, but knows that not all trans men do the same.“There's a temptation for people to say that trans guys are more sensitive, understand misogyny better, and are more in touch with their emotions. When taking T, the clitoris can get bigger and increase in sensitivity, leading to some serious pleasure.
Thanks to incredible trans women like Munroe Bergdorf and Laverne Cox, more and more people are feeling empowered to change their biological form to match their gender identity.
But what is it like being (and dating as) a trans man?
She was trying to tell her friends that she was still an acceptable lesbian because I wasn’t a real man, I was a trans man, so see, it didn’t count.
If you are not attracted to men or you don’t want to date men, don’t date a trans man. We are not a justification for your over-simplification of your complicated sexuality. Don’t date a trans man for any specific reason or agenda.
“Since transitioning, I've had the best sex of my life, met the best partners, and I’m the most comfortable I have been, especially when trying new things and switching roles.” Some trans men who don’t take T can find sex difficult. “As a result of not being on T and not having the ‘proper equipment’, I don't like receiving pleasure from my partners. I guess it's just dependent on the person, and the roles they like to take on in their sexual relationships.” Nothing new there, then!
On our second date I had shared with her that I identified as a trans man.
FYI, these kinds of questions can be intrusive, offensive and disrespectful – so please, just don’t’ ask them. “But I just attributed that to an overactive imagination.
That may be true for some, but don't take it as read; get to know a guy first! For some trans men who take T, some of these physical changes can be difficult to get used to.
“It's a lot more sensitive than it used to be, and we can end up enjoying different things sexually, as well as experiencing dryness down there,” Jas says.
I thought that if I said that I was asexual, then I would stop people from sexualising the body that I struggled with so much.” Many trans men who take T explain it’s like going through a ‘second puberty’.
As well as physical changes like increased hair growth, periods stopping and even changes to muscle formation, there can also be some emotional changes too - just like being a teenager. Jad says, “It’s helpful to understand that when we begin hormone treatment, it is basically second puberty, so forgive us for acting like moody teenagers at times.” Just like a relationship between cis-gendered people, if you’re dating a trans man, it’s important to check in with each other about how you’re feeling.“Any time I face rejection from someone, I constantly worry whether the person genuinely wasn’t interested because we weren't meshing well, or if it's because I'm trans.” Luckily for K, he found a partner who helped him through the early stages of his transition.